The Language Alchemy Podcast

3. Q&As: When to speak and how to achieve authentic communication

Have you ever wondered how to know when to speak up and when to be silent?
Or are you curious about how to make your communication more authentic?
You are not alone in having these questions and in today’s Q&A style episode, I will answer both through the Language Alchemy lens.
The first question for today is from Kandy - “How can we know when it is best to speak up or be silent in a conversation?”
I want you to consider using the teachings of the Buddha, who invites us to ask ourselves four questions before we speak.
Let’s break them down and see how to use them in our decision process.
Next, Dazza asked about how to have truly authentic communication.
Did you know that when we share exactly what is on our mind, it isn’t necessarily authentic? There are many stories, opinions, and beliefs we keep in our mind that are not our whole experience.
I want to share three steps to teach you to communicate authentically, so if you’re ready, listen to this 20-minute episode now!
Takeaways from this episode:
Each month, I will make a Q&A episode. Please submit your communication question in written or voice form here.
Knowing when it’s better to speak or be silent starts with understanding your intentions.
Once you know your intentions, you can apply the four questions from the Buddha’s teachings on skillful or wise speech: Is what I’m about to say useful? Is it truthful? Is it timely? Is it kind?
Authenticity is a popular concept, but it doesn’t necessarily mean sharing everything that is on your mind.
Use these three steps to express yourself fully. First, notice your deeper experience. Then, connect to the relational values you want to fulfill in the relationship. Finally, consider how what you’re about to say may impact the other person.
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LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE:
5 Steps to Redirect Your Reactivity:
https://www.languagealchemy.com/5steps
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https://www.languagealchemy.com/blogandvideo
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https://open.spotify.com/artist/1HlMhcNfKIELxYil5mVqDI
http://www.garylapow.com/about_gary_lapow.html
Podcast Produced by:
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2. Want to communicate with intentionality? Use the 3 stages of alchemy

Do you have unnecessary stress or tension in your relationships? Then this episode is for you!
In this episode, I talk about the link between tension and stress in your life and relationships and the language you speak. 
You’ll hear about the benefits of paying attention to language and the perils of taking your language for granted.
Just like when you pay attention to your breath after learning pranayama or breathing techniques in mindfulness and meditation practices, you can pay attention to your language when you learn the 3 stages of alchemy.
To make the 3 stages of alchemy clear for you, I give you an example. A friend invites you to do something you don’t feel comfortable doing, but you end up saying ‘yes’. What happens from the moment you say that habitual ‘yes’ until the moment of the event?
And what if instead of giving a habitual response, you knew how to use the 3 stages of alchemy to give an intentional response?
Ready to learn how? Listen to the 15-minute episode and find out!
Takeaways from this episode: 
Most of us take language for granted and use habitual language rather than conscious language
Habitual language can bring unnecessary stress and tension into your relationships, while intentional language can bring calmness, clarity and authenticity
Alchemy has three stages: awareness, exploration and integration
The more aware you are of your language, the more you can decrease tension and stress in your life and your relationships
You can learn how to alchemize your language and transform it into communication gold
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LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE
More about Steven Picker:
https://stevenpinker.com/
To join the mailing list to receive your free guide to redirect your reactivity, visit:
www.languagealchemy.com
For more resources about communication, go to:
https://www.languagealchemy.com/blogandvideo
To ask your communication questions, click here:
https://www.languagealchemy.com/podcastquestion
Podcast Music composed by Gary Lapow:
https://open.spotify.com/artist/1HlMhcNfKIELxYil5mVqDI
http://www.garylapow.com/about_gary_lapow.html
Podcast Produced by:
The Podcast Space, LLC

1. Welcome to the Language Alchemy Podcast

Alejandra Siroka wants you to experience the transformative power of language in your life. Tracing her fascination with language through her life since she was a little girl, She's seen the harming as well as the healing power of words. She's studied several languages, became a translator, interpreter, and language teacher. But, it was her marriage, a relationship she wanted to have for life, that acted as a catalyst for her quest to transform her language. Integrating tools from both ancient wisdom traditions and social and neurosciences, Alejandra developed the Language Alchemy process. Listen as Alejandra shares true stories of people just like you, who by transforming their communication, transformed their lives. You’ll understand why she's so excited to share this process with you. It's a process that brings awareness and connection as a result of communicating with clarity, confidence, and compassion.Takeaways from this episode: It is possible for you to transform your life and relationships when you transform your language
In fact, when you transform your language and communication, it’s not just your own life that is transformed. You also become a model for the rest of our human family. 
There is a lot of unnecessary pain and suffering on this planet and your capacity as a mature adult who can foster more connection is so needed right now.
To join the mailing list to receive your free guide to redirect your reactivity, please visit:www.languagealchemy.comFor more resources about communication, please visit:https://www.languagealchemy.com/blogandvideoTo ask your communication questions, please email:hello@languagealchemy.comMusic composed by Gary Lapow:https://open.spotify.com/artist/1HlMhcNfKIELxYil5mVqDIhttp://www.garylapow.com/about_gary_lapow.htmlSpecial thanks to:Samantha, Ana, Matthew, Thais, Caroline, and Tara. Podcast Produced by:The Podcast Space, LLC