The Language Alchemy Podcast

33. How to talk to women so they connect to their worth

With International Women’s Day on the horizon, host Alejandra Siroka recognizes the value of celebrating women. By supporting women, we remind them of their worth, improving society as a whole. With her experience coaching women and as a woman herself, Alejandra breaks down concrete language suggestions that can raise up the women in your lives.
Historically, and even now, many women are minimized by their well-intentioned loved ones. By ignoring young girls’ accomplishments and having separate rules for daughters and sons, we send a message that women are less than in society and culture. By changing the tone and descriptive words we use and highlighting powerful women, we can change the narrative and allow women to recognize their full potential.
Tune into this week’s episode of Language Alchemy for an educational discussion on positive communication with women. Learn more about Alejandra’s five language tools to uplift women, the negative messages women receive, and why supporting women helps us all succeed.
Quotes
• “When we support women to thrive, we all thrive.” (1:44 - 1:48)
• “When we contribute to women having the same opportunities as men, we have more members of our human family believing, communicating, and behaving with confidence, with trust in their capacity, dignity, and shared power. And this is the kind of mindset needed to thrive.” (1:44 - 2:12)
• “I’ve coached lots of women, and I'm a woman who comes from a family of mostly women and who's worked in professions where most of my peers were women. I don't know one single woman who hasn't received messages about our place, worth, and role in society as dependent, vulnerable, or incapable beings. We've heard these messages from our loving and well-intentioned parents, from teachers, from authority figures, from society, from arts and culture, and other women.” (2:33 - 3:22)
• “Want a world in which all female members of our human family know their value, their worth, trust their capacity, and believe that they too can realize their full potential and thrive?” (9:00 - 9:22)
• “Communication is not just about the words we use. It's about the tone and how you say these words. If you call women or girls sensitive, say it with a positive tone of voice because someone sensitive has access to their feelings. And someone who has access to their feelings, has empathy and compassion for others. And someone who has empathy and compassion for others is someone who's able to take action for positive change.” (11:36 - 12:11)
• "You have the wonderful opportunity to change the message for all the women in your life. You can communicate that you see their capacity and support their success." (9:24 - 9:46)
Links
The Ugly Truth about You Look Beautiful 3-minute video:
https://www.languagealchemy.com/blog/the-ugly-truth-about-you-look-beautiful
For more resources about communication, go to:
https://www.languagealchemy.com/blogandvideo
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32. Nurturing intimacy in a busy world

Valentine’s Day has come and gone, but you can take the most important part of the holiday with you.
Can you guess what that is?
One commonality most holidays share is the opportunity for intimacy with those who matter most.
“Intimacy” comes from 2 Latin words: the word intimus, which means inmost, and intimare, which means to know deeply.
So, you could say holidays are a chance to get a clear impression of someone and reconnect. However, you don’t have to wait for the holidays to become reacquainted with them on a deeper level.
We’re all busy in our day-to-day lives, but carving out moments for intimacy doesn’t have to be a time-consuming, arduous process.
I’d like to share 3 transformative communication tools for nurturing intimacy between you and your loved ones. Whether it’s a partner, spouse, or someone else you love, putting these into practice can help you show them they matter to you.
Takeaways from this episode:
- 2 roadblocks to communication include our busy schedules and the fact we’re constantly changing. Then, when we finally check in with our loved ones, we may feel distant.
- Simply talking to one another doesn’t foster intimacy, especially when it’s accompanied by multitasking.
- Promoting intimate communication helps keep your relationship alive and well and can take as little as 30 seconds.
--- LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE:
Connect with me on Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/languagealchemy
For more resources about communication, go to:
https://www.languagealchemy.com/blogandvideo
To ask your communication questions, click here:
https://www.languagealchemy.com/podcastquestion
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Podcast Music composed by Gary Lapow:
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Produced by The Podcast Space, LLC.

31. The 5 Love languages, and the one caveat you need to be aware of

Valentine’s Day is a celebration many people either love or hate. Others may feel indifferent – or prefer to observe “Single’s Awareness Day” instead!
Personally, I believe it’s important to have a day when millions of people express their love to those they care about.
Maybe it’s through a hug or kiss.
Maybe it’s through a gift, like a box of chocolates or jewelry.
Maybe it’s through preparing a meal or helping with the chores.
Maybe it’s watching a movie together.
Or maybe it’s sharing the phrase “I love you” through a card, phone call, or simply, sweetly stated aloud.
These different ways of sharing love are examples of the 5 love languages, pioneered and popularized by Dr. Gary Chapman in his book The Five Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts.
Physical touch, receiving gifts, acts of service, quality time, and words of affirmation are all helpful ways to communicate love. They’re also helpful to recognize in your partner so you’re aware of their expression of love.
This discussion will help you identify your (and your partner’s) love language to create a lasting connection. That way, you can better see and appreciate the love around you and the many forms it takes.
Takeaways from this episode:
- Be aware of and communicate to your partner that you recognize their expression of love for you.
- Avoid using the 5 love languages to blame your partner for not using your preferred love language. This can create unnecessary disconnection and devalues the way your partner shows love.
- Love comes from within. If you want to feel loved, you need to notice all the ways in which you are loved rather than imposing on your environment.
--- LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE:
5 Love Languages:https://www.5lovelanguages.com/learnConnect with me on Instagram: 
https://www.instagram.com/languagealchemy
For more resources about communication, go to:
https://www.languagealchemy.com/blogandvideo
To ask your communication questions, click here:
https://www.languagealchemy.com/podcastquestion
To join the mailing list, visit:
www.languagealchemy.com
Podcast Music composed by Gary Lapow:
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Produced by The Podcast Space, LLC.

30. The way through pain is compassion in your communication

I find that it’s easier to connect to a concept when I delve into the origin of the word.
The word “compassion” is a Latin word meaning, “to be with the pain of another.”
Think about what that means. At first, the idea of taking on another’s pain may not sound appealing. Yet, compassion brings people together.
When we communicate with compassion, we can understand others in their trouble; we can make space for others and experience connection.
Compassion is one of the 3 elements of transformative communication, along with clarity and confidence. In this episode, I’m focusing on compassion and how it not only bridges communication and understanding, but elevates our humanity.
My sincere hope is that you’ll unpack the idea of compassion by learning the types of pain and identifying them in yourself. You’ll also understand the benefits of opening your heart to others in a meaningful way.
You - and others in your life - deserve it. 
Takeaways from this episode:
- When we avoid confronting our pain (and the pain of others), it turns into resentment, grievance, or judgment. This in turn, generates the experience of divisiveness and disconnection.
- Compassion opens our hearts to others, allowing us to connect in a meaningful way that prevents shame and judgment from existing.
- It’s easier to understand others’ pain when you understand the pain residing within yourself.
--- LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE:
Episode 1 of 3 my series about how to Express yourself with clarity, confidence, and compassion:
28. Want less conflict in your relationships?
https://www.languagealchemy.com/podcasts/language-alchemy-podcast/episodes/2147674877
Episode 2 of 3 of my series about how to Express yourself with clarity, confidence, and compassion:
https://www.languagealchemy.com/podcasts/language-alchemy-podcast/episodes/2147678087
Connect with me on Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/languagealchemy 
For more resources about communication, go to:
https://www.languagealchemy.com/blogandvideo
To ask your communication questions, click here:
https://www.languagealchemy.com/podcastquestion
To join the mailing list, visit:
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Podcast Music composed by Gary Lapow:
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Produced by The Podcast Space, LLC.

29. Do you struggle with others not trusting you? You may not sound confident enough!

This is the second part in my 3-part series on the qualities of transformative communication. In episode 28 we discussed communicating with clarity. Now we’re building upon it to discuss:
-How to understand when you or others aren’t communicating with confidence
-The benefits of communicating with confidence
-2 action items to cultivate confidence in your communication
Communicating with confidence is vital to living authentically. Many people are aware of this.
In fact, 99.9% of people who ask for my support with communication coaching need help communicating confidently. Oftentimes, however, people don’t even realize that’s what they need.
Communicating with confidence involves more than you may think.It isn’t just about the words you say.
There’s a huge nonverbal component, and that energy comes across to the listener when you lack confidence.
The word “confidence” comes from Latin, and it means “to be with faith or to trust.”
Have you noticed when someone sounds nervous it’s as if they don’t trust themselves? Their words lack authority and conviction.
The same happens when your voice doesn’t convey confidence; it’s hard for others to have faith in you.
Takeaways from this episode:
-The more you know about your communication, the more you’ll know what to continue - and the more clarity you’ll have about what you need to learn.
-When you lack confidence, you can feel it in your body. Be aware of those sensations and take a deep breath to transform your nerves.
-When you’re able to communicate with confidence, others are generally more willing to listen, follow, and support you.
--- LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE:
Episode 1 of 3 my series about how to Express yourself with clarity, confidence, and compassion:
28. Want less conflict in your relationships?
https://www.languagealchemy.com/podcasts/language-alchemy-podcast/episodes/2147674877
Connect with me on Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/languagealchemy
For more resources about communication, go to:
https://www.languagealchemy.com/blogandvideo
To ask your communication questions, click here:
https://www.languagealchemy.com/podcastquestion
To join the mailing list, visit:
www.languagealchemy.com
Podcast Music composed by Gary Lapow:
https://open.spotify.com/artist/1HlMhcNfKIELxYil5mVqDI
Produced by The Podcast Space, LLC.

28. Want less conflict in your relationships?

“Express yourself with clarity, confidence, and compassion.”
This is the tagline for Language Alchemy, and it’s also a recipe for communication success. When you not only commit it to memory, but put it into practice, you’ll find it easier to meaningfully connect with others.
If you’re wondering where to begin, I first recommend you focus on clarity.
Speaking clearly sounds deceptively simple. However, it requires a level of empathy for your listener and an ability to see your words from different angles. How might other people perceive what you said?
Once you’re aware of unclear language, then you must become aware of how to interrupt your unhelpful communication patterns.
Thankfully, there are guidelines to avoiding these pitfalls.
This is part 1 of a 3-part series on communicating with clarity, confidence, and compassion. These make the foundation of effective communication, and you’ll see that as you examine each element and put them into practice.
When you practice clarity in particular, you'll experience smoother, more peaceful interactions in your relationships.
Takeaways from this episode:
-If communication is unclear, it leaves room for misunderstanding – and misunderstandings are the shortcut to conflict.
-Being specific helps you communicate with clarity.
-When communicating, lead with your intention: Why do you want to say what you want to say?
- Unclear communication leads to inefficiency. It can lead to confusion and unnecessary back and forth communication.
--- LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE:
For more resources about communication, go to:
https://www.languagealchemy.com/blogandvideo
To ask your communication questions, click here:
https://www.languagealchemy.com/podcastquestion
To join the mailing list, visit:
www.languagealchemy.com
Podcast Music composed by Gary Lapow:
https://open.spotify.com/artist/1HlMhcNfKIELxYil5mVqDI
Produced by The Podcast Space, LLC.

27. Turning Vulnerability Into Connection: An Inspiring True Story

As Brené Brown once said, “Vulnerability is the birthplace of love, belonging, joy, courage, empathy, and creativity.”
But vulnerability may not always come easily – it relies on our ability to be honest with ourselves and share that honesty with others.
Without sharing our truth, we can’t form authentic connections.
My client, Jared, experienced a transformative communication journey where he realized just how true this is. Before working with me, he bounced from relationship to relationship. As a form of self-sabotage, he backed away from every meaningful relationship he had.
In working on his communication, he learned that coping mechanisms in his childhood played a role in his actions today. To be strong, he felt he needed to suppress his feelings - to the eventual detriment of his relationships.
Today I’m proud of the progress he’s made. By learning to be vulnerable and honest, he’s been able to nurture communication that has helped in all areas of his life, even helping double his sales quota at work.
You’ll see that his story is an inspiring example of what’s possible when you create an intention to enhance your communication.
Takeaways from this episode:
- Your friends may be reinforcing your self-sabotaging patterns in an effort to be supportive. Be aware that they may not be supporting your growth.
- There will always be new situations, new people and new opportunities requiring you to learn something new about communication and work on your listening.
- Challenge yourself to tackle a difficult conversation requiring vulnerability each day. Usually it will turn into connection, and that practice reinforces the power of vulnerability and makes it easier each time.
- The word “courage” comes from middle French, from coeur or heart. When you lead from the heart in communication, you're being vulnerable.
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LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE:
Check out Episode 25: The 6-step process that will help you stay true to your New Year’s intentions:
https://www.languagealchemy.com/podcasts/language-alchemy-podcast/episodes/2147661663 
Download The Proven Roadmap to Sustainably Bring Forth Your New Year's Intentions:
https://www.languagealchemy.com/followthrough
For more resources about communication, go to:
https://www.languagealchemy.com/blogandvideo
To ask your communication questions, click here:
https://www.languagealchemy.com/podcastquestion
To join the mailing list, visit:
www.languagealchemy.com
Podcast Music composed by Gary Lapow:
https://open.spotify.com/artist/1HlMhcNfKIELxYil5mVqDI
Produced by The Podcast Space, LLC.

26. What happens when you make and fulfill the intention to learn to communicate from the heart?

It’s easy to describe why and how communication can help you in general terms. But what really paints a picture is hearing firsthand how someone nurtured their communication skills and what they gained from the experience.
One great example comes from a client I’ve had the honor to guide. Denise DeLuca is a yoga and meditation teacher, mother and grandmother who seeks to communicate her heart.
She explains her motivations for her communication work and how it has enhanced her daily spiritual practice, as well as helped set her intentions for the new year.
If you’re focusing on enhancing your communication this year, it’s an honorable intention – you’ll see that in Denise’s story.
After all, forging connections with others is a valuable exercise that eases collaboration and greater understanding.
My sincere hope is that her words will inspire you to consider your own intentions. Maybe you’ll see some qualities in her story that you’d like to bring forth in your own interactions.
Takeaways from this episode:
- Try communicating from the heart, with a sense of openness and receptivity.
- Truly listening to another person means you’re not in your head planning responses – it means you’re present.
- Approach communication as a student: constantly learning, refining, and showing up to new experiences without a script or formula.
--- LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE:
Check out The 6-step process that will help you stay true to your New Year’s intentions
https://www.languagealchemy.com/podcasts/language-alchemy-podcast/episodes/2147661663 
Episode 24. What are your communication intentions for the new year?
https://www.languagealchemy.com/podcasts/language-alchemy-podcast/episodes/2147652632
Download The Proven Roadmap to Sustainably Bring Forth Your New Year's Intentions:
https://www.languagealchemy.com/followthrough
To learn more about Denise DeLuca and her workshops, please visit:
https://www.denisedeluca.com 
For more resources about communication, go to:
https://www.languagealchemy.com/blogandvideo
To ask your communication questions, click here:
https://www.languagealchemy.com/podcastquestion
To join the mailing list, visit:
www.languagealchemy.com
Podcast Music composed by Gary Lapow:
https://open.spotify.com/artist/1HlMhcNfKIELxYil5mVqDI
Produced by The Podcast Space, LLC.

25. The 6-step process that will help you stay true to your New Year’s intentions

Have you ever made a New Year’s resolution only to see your effort fade as the months pass?
Maybe that little voice inside your head talked you out of reaching your goals. (“I don’t have time to run anymore because work is too busy.”)
That voice can become assertive and convincing, and eventually win you over – causing you to feel relief when you quit.
If that sounds familiar, you’re not alone. Fortunately, there’s a helpful approach.
Just as words can talk you out of goals, conscious words can also keep you focused.
Reframing your resolution as an intention is a strong first step to converting your inward desires into a desired outcome.
You’ll see why the traditional view of resolutions may not yield success, and how my 6-step process can set you on the path toward the fruitful year you planned.
Takeaways from this episode:
Your internal dialogue can make or break your goals. The distracting voice in your head may seem supportive, but it may also become subtle self-sabotage.
When resolutions seem too big and unreachable, surrendering to the voice of temptation releases pressure. That’s why it’s important to reframe wishes and follow incremental steps to achieve them.
Understand why realizing your intention will enhance your life and how to measure your success.
Accountability increases your chance of reaching goals. Engage people to help you along your journey and meet regularly.  
--- LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE:
Episode 24. What are your communication intentions for the new year?
https://www.languagealchemy.com/podcasts/language-alchemy-podcast/episodes/2147652632
Download The Proven Roadmap to Sustainably Bring Forth Your New Year's Intentions:
https://www.languagealchemy.com/followthrough
For more resources about communication, go to:
https://www.languagealchemy.com/blogandvideo
To ask your communication questions, click here:
https://www.languagealchemy.com/podcastquestion
To join the mailing list, visit:
www.languagealchemy.com
Podcast Music composed by Gary Lapow:
https://open.spotify.com/artist/1HlMhcNfKIELxYil5mVqDI
Produced by The Podcast Space, LLC.

24. What are your communication intentions for the new year?

Having a New Year’s resolution is a popular ritual, especially one involving a new hobby, habit, or skill. This year, I’m inviting you to go deeper and try something different.
Can you envision yourself setting an intention with how you communicate in the new year?
From my experiences, both personally and from working with clients, I’ve witnessed the beautiful benefits that are possible when you focus your energy on your communication.
If you aren’t sure what it means to set a communication intention, listen to the examples I share, grab a journal and answer the 4 questions I have for you.
These 4 questions can guide you to start the new year with renewed awareness about your communication.
Takeaways from this episode:
Setting an intention with communication in this new year can transform your life.
Why it’s important to consider your communication intentions with others.
Four questions you can journal about or reflect on to find your own communication intention.
--- LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE:
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For more resources about communication, go to:
https://www.languagealchemy.com/blogandvideo
To ask your communication questions, click here:
https://www.languagealchemy.com/podcastquestion
To join the mailing list, visit:
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Podcast Music composed by Gary Lapow:
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Produced by The Podcast Space, LLC.