The Language Alchemy Podcast
The language you use every day shapes your world and is your bridge to deeply connecting with yourself and others. Through the Language Alchemy Podcast, host Alejandra Siroka, a transformative communication teacher and coach, invites you to explore and express your deepest truths with clarity, confidence, and compassion. Give conscious shape to a fulfilling life and meaningful relationships with Language Alchemy.
Episodes

Wednesday Jul 20, 2022
Wednesday Jul 20, 2022
“Language sets you up for something meaningful,” explains host Alejandra. As many of you know, the Language Alchemy Podcast recently celebrated its first anniversary with a virtual party. Reflecting on the success of this fantastic milestone, Alejandra shares the three components of throwing a thoughtful and joyful event.
As a transformative communication teacher and coach, Alejandra understands how language sets the tone for meaningful celebrations. By demonstrating how grateful you are for the people who show up for you, you can create a connection with your community and curate a positive experience for your guests. Whether you want your celebration to be tender, deep, or simply fun, how you interact with others is key.
Tune into this week’s episode of The Language Alchemy Podcast for a helpful conversation on throwing meaningful celebrations. Learn more about the podcast’s live anniversary party, how language influences positive interactions and ways to express gratitude for the people around you.
Quotes
• “Language sets you up for something meaningful.” (5:36-5:40| Alejandra)
• “If you want the celebration to be deep, you must be willing to be the first one to be deep. If you want the celebration to be tender, you need to be willing to be tender.” (6:02-6:13| Alejandra)
• “A celebration is an expression of acknowledgment. It is an expression of gratitude.” (11:41-11:47| Alejandra)
• “In this episode, I share with you three important elements to have in a celebration if you would like that celebration to be meaningful. These elements are number one, preparing your guests for a meaningful celebration with the language you use in the invitation. Number two, reflect on the meaningful characteristics you'd like the celebration to have and be willing to embody those characteristics through the way you communicate. And number three, expressing gratitude using a specific language.” (16:10-16:44| Alejandra)
• “Next time you want to have a meaningful celebration, now you know how to use language alchemy to transform what could be an ordinary event into a meaningful one.” (16:46-16:58| Alejandra)
Links
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Wednesday Jul 13, 2022
Wednesday Jul 13, 2022
“In this country, because English is my first language, that could be seen as a privilege,” explains Nancy Kahn, Consultant, Coach, Trainer, Mediator, and host Alejandra’s first Communication Teacher. In today’s episode of The Language Alchemy Podcast, Nancy Kahn returns to discuss how to build a more caring work experience. Through Nancy's insights, the listeners gain valuable tools to disrupt harmful power dynamics.
Nancy understands that attending to our most marginalized groups helps us all. If we treat others who are different then us with dignity and respect, we will inevitably ensure respect for all, including ourselves. By creating space for others in and out of the workplace, we can improve our communication with one another and build a kinder, more equitable world.
Tune into this week’s episode of the Language Alchemy Podcast for an insightful conversation on creating inclusive work environments. Learn more about the role of power dynamics, the definition of an ally, and how to attend to harm and develop trust.
Quotes
• “In this country, because English is my first language, that could be seen as a privilege because somebody isn't going to question or put down how I'm speaking English when that happens to people in this country who don't speak English as their first language.” (3:00-3:21 | Nancy)
• “An ally is somebody who may have the privilege and positional power, often people who might identify as white, or cisgender, or in any way that you may experience privilege in society.” (5:15-5:30 | Nancy)
• “When harm happens, it doesn't mean that wrongdoing has happened. But it is important to be able to attend to the harm to restore trust.” (9:34-9:42)
• “We need to develop the ability to self-reflect and to defend ourselves so that we don't arm up and shield ourselves and get reactive.” (11:59-12:12 | Nancy)
• “We can learn from each other and create a culture where it's okay.” 17:10-17:16 | Nancy)
Links
To listen to Nancy's Radio program, click here:
www.talkitoutradio.wordpress.com
To find out more about Nancy Kahn's work, click here:
www.compassnarratives.com
To participate in podcast anniversary celebration and enter into the raffle, click here:
languagealchemy.com/podcastanniversary
To ask your communication questions, click here:
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Wednesday Jul 06, 2022
Wednesday Jul 06, 2022
“I want to have my identity embraced. I also want to be authentic with people,” explains Nancy Kahn, Consultant, Coach, Trainer, Mediator, and host Alejandra’s first Communication Teacher. Nancy helps individuals and teams learn and integrate communication practices and develops leadership and organizational systems aligned with anti-racist frameworks. A highly-skilled communication professional, Nancy shares her experiences in the field and the tools she uses to educate others.
As a Black and Jewish woman, Nancy is well aware of how systems of power use language to maintain themselves, often by inciting fear. Through her work, she can use her own intersectional identity to relate to her clients with authenticity and empathy, understanding that everybody wants their experiences validated. Ultimately, she teaches people to communicate with co-workers who are different from themselves because it is better to check in with each other than make assumptions.
Tune into this week’s episode of Language Alchemy Podcast for a stimulating conversation on building a caring work experience. Learn more about Nancy’s impressive communication leadership background, how she uses her intersectional identity to discuss complex topics, and the importance of working through unconscious bias.
Quotes
• “People might not know what my background is. And I find it very important to tell people what I am so that if I'm communicating about things that relate to my ancestry, I want people to know why I'm sharing these things and why I can bring them forward.” (7:35-7:55 | Nancy)
• “I want to have my identity embraced. I also want to be authentic with people.” (8:48-8:53 | Nancy)
• “I just want us to be able to create and maintain inclusive spaces where people can bring all of their identities and not feel concerned, scared, uncomfortable, or judged.” (9:41-9:55 | Nancy)
• “Any system that uses power over, whether it's a legal system, the government, even religious institutions, or law enforcement, there's a language that was developed to maintain those systems. And it's often keeping people reacting and responding from fear.” (17:15-17:37) Alejandra)
• “I've had to look at myself making assumptions about people, and I've learned that it's better to ask somebody than make assumptions.” (21:08-21:19| Alejandra)
Links
To listen to Nancy's Radio program, click here:
www.talkitoutradio.wordpress.com
To find out more about Nancy Kahn's work, click here:
www.compassnarratives.com
To sign up for the podcast anniversary Zoom party, click here:
languagealchemy.com/podcastanniversary
To ask your communication questions, click here:
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To join the mailing list, visit: languagealchemy.com
Podcast Music composed by Gary Lapow:
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Wednesday Jun 29, 2022
Wednesday Jun 29, 2022
“When you know that feelings might be present in a conversation, then that conversation may be difficult for you,” explains host Alejandra. Although any topic of conversation can be hard to discuss, it can be even more challenging for those who struggle with vulnerability. In time for the Language’s Alchemy Podcast’s first anniversary, Alejandra provides the listeners with helpful tips on starting a tough conversation.
The critical thing to remember when beginning a laborious conversation is not to call attention to the difficulty of the topic. By starting a conversation by saying, “We need to talk” or “Don’t get angry,” we’re preparing our loved ones to have an adverse reaction already. Instead, try approaching the conversation like it’s important rather than challenging, and you will have an easier time communicating.
Tune into this week’s episode of Language Alchemy Podcast for a clarifying conversation on how to start a difficult conversation. Learn more about the three common mistakes to avoid, more effective conversation tactics, and how to have stronger relationships with the people around you.
Quotes
• “A topic or a conversation that's difficult for one person is not necessarily difficult for another.” (3:09-3:16 | Alejandra)
• “When you know that feelings might be present in a conversation, then that conversation may be difficult for you, and when something is difficult for us, we may start with tentativeness, fear, exaggerated caution, and even end up complicating things for ourselves and others.” (4:28-4:52 | Alejandra)
• “One of the mistakes we make when we want to start a difficult conversation is that we say something like, we need to talk, or I need to talk to you. Now, if I say that to you, we need to talk. Most likely, when you hear those words, you get tense. You brace yourself. Or if you hear, I need to talk to you. Maybe you start getting ready to defend or to protect yourself. And if that is the case, it's going to be hard for you to stay open to me, be relaxed, and listen to what I like to say, right? Because of my words and the tone of my voice, we need to talk. I need to talk to you. They are already telling you something difficult or uncomfortable is about to happen.” (5:34-6:33 | Alejandra)
• “If you want a less difficult conversation, avoid starting the interaction with “We need to talk, or I need to talk to you.” (6:34-6:45 | Alejandra)
• “When you have an important conversation, this conversation can be beneficial for you and the other person because it can enhance your life, their life, and the relationship.” (12:00 - 12:12 | Alejandra)
Links
To sign up for the podcast anniversary Zoom party, click here:
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Wednesday Jun 22, 2022
Wednesday Jun 22, 2022
“It's important to make a commitment to avoiding assumptions about people because of the way they look,” says host Alejandra. In honor of Pride Month, Alejandra explains the importance of personal pronouns. By demonstrating why they are used in speech, Alejandra gives insight into how to adjust your communication skills to be more inclusive.
As a language teacher and communication coach, Alejandra understands that language is always evolving. When words are no longer an accurate reflection of our current world, it is natural for us to adjust. By using people’s correct personal pronouns, whether he, she, they, or something else, we are demonstrating a respect for our human family and the wonderful expression of identity.
Tune into this week’s episode of the Language Alchemy Podcast for an illuminating conversation on personal pronouns. Learn more about the different pronouns used in the English language, helpful ways to incorporate the pronoun “they” in daily communication, and how to use language to transform our world.
Quotes
• “It's important to make a commitment to avoiding assumptions about people because of the way they look. And to make sure that we're using people's correct personal pronouns as a way of respecting them.” (07:55-08:10 | Alejandra)
• “Language is a living organism. And as such, it's constantly changing and evolving.” (10:36-10:43 | Alejandra)
• “Our identity is way more complex than just a matter of preference or taste.” (17:20-17:26 | Alejandra)
• “We can communicate and live in a world where all of us feel safe to express ourselves, including the , , bisexual, transgender, , intersex, and asexual members of our human family.” (19:17-19:40 | Alejandra)
• “Remember, you and I can transform our world when we transform our language.” (20:14-20:21 | Alejandra)
Links
To learn more about pronouns, click here:
https://pronouns.org/
To ask your communication questions, click here:
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Wednesday Jun 15, 2022
Wednesday Jun 15, 2022
“Emotions, tantrums, or even lashing out at parents are okay and shouldn't be curtailed,” explains guest Brian Wood. Alejandra describes her friend Brian’s communication style with his son as empathically mindful. Today, Brian and Alejandra discuss how other fathers can engage with increased emotional awareness right in time for Father’s Day.
Brian acknowledges that his father came from a generation that had difficulty expressing themselves, especially to their children. When he became a father, Brian and his wife worked to get tools and resources to ensure this dynamic wouldn’t repeat itself. By looking at his son’s non-verbal cues, Brian tailors his responses to be helpful to the development of his son.
Tune into this week’s episode of The Language Alchemy Podcast for a supportive conversation on improving fathers’ communication. Learn more about Brian’s relationship with his Dad, how parenting doesn’t need to involve rewards or punishments, and why your kids need to feel loved no matter what they do.
Quotes
• “When building the communication of a relationship, it's important to look at non-verbal flags.” (14:19 - 14:26 | Brian)
• “Emotions, tantrums, or even lashing out at parents are okay and shouldn't be curtailed. Everyone should be kept safe, but the child must undergo that process.” (14:44 - 14:58 | Brian)
• "And then we'll sit with him and be with him and try to be there to connect with him. And when I see him pushing away because of what I said, like, you know, how does this feel to you? Or I'm like, “I'm getting a little too in there emotionally, then that's my cue to be like, maybe I'm just sitting with him, and maybe, I put my hand on his back as he's bearing his face in his pillow." (15:10 - 15:32 | Brian)
• “What's nurturing is creating the connection between us wherever I can find some common ground for him.” (17:47 - 18:04 | Brian)
• "I believe that kids need permission to be messy, loud, and annoying, and to know they are still loved.” (32:43 - 32:59 | Brian)
Links
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Wednesday Jun 08, 2022
Wednesday Jun 08, 2022
“The lessons of history can help educators and students stand up to bigotry and hate,” says Brian Fong, Program Director for the California Facing History and Ourselves chapter. Through this organization, Brian works to help others engage in complex topics, such as race and sexuality. Ultimately, Brian aims to nurture an empathetically challenging environment to facilitate positive change.
During his first year of teaching, Brian faced his blind spots through his diverse body of students. Realizing that he needed to become an upstander in society, a person who defends those different from them, Brian began his journey promoting inclusion. He encourages the listeners to have brave conversations that can foster change.
Tune into this week’s episode of The Language Alchemy Podcast for a straightforward conversation on disrupting the bystander effect. Learn more how you can respond as an upstander when you hear someone making an intolerant comment.
Quotes
• “The lessons of history can help educators and students stand up to bigotry and hate.” (3:40 - 3:45 | Brian)
• “We can talk to one another to prolong a dialogue rather than shut down a conversation.” (14:49 - 14:56 | Brian)
• "Being an upstander is tiring, and it's challenging. The more we can have allies and the more people are willing to embrace an upstander mindset, the less burdensome it becomes.” (28:05 - 28:18 | Brian)
• “Let's find ways that we can be upstanders together because that will make it easier for this to be the norm, rather than by bystanding." (28:20 - 28:28 | Brian)
• “The less we have opportunities to sit in each other's company to share our stories, the less we learn, and the more that we allow other stories and other narratives to be told about us rather than by us for one another.” (31:43 - 31:56 | Brian)
Links
To learn about Facing History and Ourselves and donate, click here:
https://info.facinghistory.org/san-francisco-bay-area-25th-anniversary
To view Loretta Ross Ted Talk, click here:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xw_720iQDss
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Wednesday Jun 01, 2022
Wednesday Jun 01, 2022
“You and I both can bring about equality and equity by using an inclusive language that decreases the impact of microaggressions for all the members of our human family,” explains host Alejandra.
People who are members of marginalized groups experience microaggressions frequently due to other people’s implicit biases based on things like their looks, skin color, disability status, religion, gender identity, and sexual orientation.
Having experienced instances of microaggressions herself, Alejandra shares the most effective ways to respond when either experiencing or witnessing a microaggression.
Most microaggressions aren’t done intentionally and rather are caused by a person’s hidden biases. If you’re often on the receiving end of these types of interactions or you witness them frequently, there are several effective ways you could respond.
You may choose not to respond due to concern for your own safety, shock in the moment, or simply not knowing what to say. There’s nothing wrong with keeping quiet, but you may later regret not having spoken up about the microaggression impacted you.
By having these strategies in your pocket, you can be more prepared to confront any microaggressions you encounter. The top four strategies for responding to microaggressions without being reactive are: asking for clarification, separating the person’s intention from the impact it had on your emotions, challenging the implied stereotypes, and sharing your own learning process to explain why their words or actions were hurtful.
Tune into this week’s episode of Language Alchemy Podcast for an informative conversation about microaggressions, how they tie into implicit biases, and the long lasting impact they have on the recipient.
Learn how to respond when you are on the receiving end of microaggressions or when you witness it happening to others.
Quotes
• “Have you ever had repeated experiences of people saying things to you or doing things in your presence, things that seem benign on the surface, but when you hear them you experience an internal Ouch, because what that person said excluded you in some way and made you feel like an other? In those instances you might have been experiencing microaggressions.” (1:35-2:03 | Alejandra)
• “The impact of microaggressions can go beyond feeling hurt in the moment. There are many psychological studies that point to long term psychological issues, such as trauma, anxiety, depression, and even suicidal ideation.” (15:54-16:10 | Alejandra)
• “If you choose to keep quiet in response to a microaggression, it would be important to reflect on whether you would later on regret not having said anything, or maybe you can choose to say something later and communicate skillfully.” (17:25-17:43 | Alejandra)
• “You and I both can bring about equality and equity by using an inclusive language that decreases the impact of microaggressions for all the members of our human family.” (23:41-25:54 | Alejandra)
Links:
To get the free guide 5 Steps to Redirect Your Reactivity, click here: languagealchemy.com/5steps
To save your spot for Choosing True Connection online course, click here: https://www.languagealchemy.com/enroll
To see Diane Goodman's strategies to respond to microaggressions, click here: https://dianegoodman.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/05/Responding-to-Microaggressions-and-Bias-Goodman332.pdf
To ask your communication questions, click here: languagealchemy.com/podcastquestion
To listen to episode 45 on Hidden Biases, click here:
https://www.languagealchemy.com/podcasts/language-alchemy-podcast/episodes/2147737468
To join the mailing list, visit: languagealchemy.com
Podcast Music composed by Gary Lapow:
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Wednesday May 25, 2022
Wednesday May 25, 2022
“Unless we work on the messages we inherited, we just perpetuate them,” explains host Alejandra. After the murder of George Floyd, many people have reflected on what their hidden biases are and how these behaviors impact society. With years of this type of self-exploration, Alejandra breaks down the tools needed to reframe your internal dialogue and evaluate your views on racism and intolerance.
Like most people, Alejandra was not always aware of how she internalized racist messaging. But for the past few decades, she has made a habit of listening to her internal dialogue and stopping herself when an intolerant thought seeps in. By practicing empathy towards others and sitting with the consequences of certain behaviors, we can move past society’s lies and work towards making the world a more loving and connecting place.
Tune into this week’s episode of Language Alchemy Podcast for a helpful conversation about uncovering hidden biases. Learn more about Alejandra’s experience with hidden biases, why you should hold yourself accountable with your communication, and how self-exploration leads to positive action.
Quotes
• “Transformation starts within. My work with my hidden biases began by examining my internal language regarding issues of racism and intolerance.” (2:36 - 2:49 | Alejandra)
• “Unless we work on the messages we inherited, we just perpetuate them.” (9:15 - 9:20 | Alejandra)
• “When you do this work, what you find on the other side is more connectedness, capacity, and love in your heart, which moves you to take skillful actions.” (12:42 - 12:56 | Alejandra)
• “How we use our language has the ability to help us evolve.” (15:50 - 15:55 | Alejandra)
• “If we want to have a more tolerant and a more compassionate world for all of us, and by us, and especially referring to the precious Black members of our human family, then we need to do and continue to do the work that's needed to heal or to evolve or both. And this work starts at the most local level. And that is our internal dialogue.” (16:51 - 17:21 | Alejandra)
Links
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Wednesday May 18, 2022
Wednesday May 18, 2022
After the tragic murder of George Floyd, many people worldwide woke up to the importance of discussing race and equity. With a desire to respectfully navigate these critical conversations, many clients sought host Alejandra’s communication advice. As a result, Alejandra promotes literature to further the dialogue, such as Ijeoma Oluo's So You Want to Talk About Race.
Ijeoma Oluo's So You Want to Talk About Race is a powerful book from start to finish. By reading an excerpt from the introduction, Alejandra highlights how well Ijeoma Oluo articulates her complex experience as a Black woman in the United States. Although it may be challenging to put yourself in the shoes of another, it is crucial to work past your defensiveness and accept the truth of another group’s reality. Ultimately, if non-Black people research before discussing difficult topics and commit to unlearning dangerous norms, we can create a better world for the human family.
Tune into this week’s episode of the Language Alchemy Podcast for a critical conversation on race and racism. Learn more about the lessons Ijeoma Oluo teaches, how to move past your triggers, and why we should be willing to feel uncomfortable when discussing systematic oppression.
Quotes:
• “I want you to know that if you think that talking about race and equity is hard, that is completely accurate. It's hard for many reasons. One of them is because when you have a conversation about race, you need to be willing or at least aware that you will be talking about history about racial oppression, social constructs, unconscious biases, unjust and pain generating systems and structures, and political and economic power especially in the United States.” [Alejandra] (2:08 - 3:06)
• “You have to be willing to get messy and come out of these conversations with perhaps more questions than answers with the likelihood of no immediate resolutions other than the commitment to stay in the conversation for the benefit of all beings.” [Alejandra] (3:24 - 3:42)
• “We must all traverse if we want to bring more peace, justice, and equity to our human family.” [Alejandra] (5:21 - 5:29)
• “We cannot understand race and racial oppression if we cannot talk about it.” [Alejandra] (10:11 - 10:16)
• “These conversations aren't easy. Neither is growing up or evolving, but you and I must learn to have these conversations if we'd like to have a reality without racism and racial oppression.” [Alejandra] (18:14 - 18:30)
Links:
To visit Ijeoma Oluo's website, click here: https://www.ijeomaoluo.com
To purchase Ijeoma Oluo's So You Want to Talk About Race book, click here: https://www.indiebound.org/book/9781580058827
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