Wednesday Aug 04, 2021

3. Q&As: When to speak and how to achieve authentic communication

Have you ever wondered how to know when to speak up and when to be silent?

Or are you curious about how to make your communication more authentic?

You are not alone in having these questions and in today’s Q&A style episode, I will answer both through the Language Alchemy lens.

The first question for today is from Kandy - “How can we know when it is best to speak up or be silent in a conversation?”

I want you to consider using the teachings of the Buddha, who invites us to ask ourselves four questions before we speak.

Let’s break them down and see how to use them in our decision process.

Next, Dazza asked about how to have truly authentic communication.

Did you know that when we share exactly what is on our mind, it isn’t necessarily authentic? There are many stories, opinions, and beliefs we keep in our mind that are not our whole experience.

I want to share three steps to teach you to communicate authentically, so if you’re ready, listen to this 20-minute episode now!

Takeaways from this episode:

  1. Each month, I will make a Q&A episode. Please submit your communication question in written or voice form here.
  2. Knowing when it’s better to speak or be silent starts with understanding your intentions.
  3. Once you know your intentions, you can apply the four questions from the Buddha’s teachings on skillful or wise speech: Is what I’m about to say useful? Is it truthful? Is it timely? Is it kind?
  4. Authenticity is a popular concept, but it doesn’t necessarily mean sharing everything that is on your mind.
  5. Use these three steps to express yourself fully. First, notice your deeper experience. Then, connect to the relational values you want to fulfill in the relationship. Finally, consider how what you’re about to say may impact the other person.

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LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE:

5 Steps to Redirect Your Reactivity:

https://www.languagealchemy.com/5steps

To ask your communication questions, click here:

https://www.languagealchemy.com/podcastquestion

To join the mailing list, visit:

www.languagealchemy.com

For more resources about communication, go to:

https://www.languagealchemy.com/blogandvideo

Podcast Music composed by Gary Lapow:

https://open.spotify.com/artist/1HlMhcNfKIELxYil5mVqDI

http://www.garylapow.com/about_gary_lapow.html

Podcast Produced by:

The Podcast Space, LLC

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